We are here to help you either by having the service in the church or by one of our ministers coming to the crematorium or cemetery and conducting the service there for you. We work closely with the local funeral directors to enable you to have the right service.
You are welcome to have the funeral service in one of our churches whether or not the deceased was christened and regardless of whether or not they went to church regularly. It's your church, and we are here for you, especially at time like this. Our churches are at the heart of their communities and we want you to be able to have a service in your community rather than having to travel elsewhere.
It is up to you if you would like a burial or a cremation. In Aldbury, Long Marston and Puttenham we have burials in our church yards. In Tring and Wilstone there can be burials at the civic cemeteries, close to the churches. If you preference is for a cremation you can either have the service in church or a minister will come with you to the crematorium and take the service in their chapel. The advantage of a church service is that it remains within your community. It is possible for the entire service to be within the church, including the commendation and committal. If this is the case we say goodbye to the deceased at the church door and the funeral directors will accompany them to the cremation. Others prefer to go to the crematorium for the committal. If you do this we will use the same words as we would have done at the church. You might like to talk about these options either with one of our ministers or the funeral directors
By choosing a Christian service, whether in church or at the crematorium you are acknowledging that we are more than flesh and blood, there is a spiritual dimension to each person’s life. The deceased will have had their own individual characteristics and personality. We give thanks for these. In giving thanks we recognise that their life and the love which the shared came from somewhere. We also believe that death is not the ultimate end and through God we are able to share in a continuing love.
Our ministers are all experienced in leading funeral services. They will help you create a service which is personal to you, and which will reflect the life of the deceased. We back this up with a tradition and a theological and prayerful framework which makes some sense of death. The prayers and words which we use help give a structure to a funeral service. We can either book an organist to help lead the service or all of our churches have the facility to use recorded music.
Sometimes people are fearful that we will impose religion on them - a funeral is not the time or place for this. At the service we will try and
• Give thanks for the life of the deceased and start the process of remembering them
• Comfort those who are grieving
• Proclaim a hope that this is not the end.
“I am the resurrection and the life,' says the Lord. Those who believe in me,
even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die.”